So the other day, I was talking to a friend and they were shocked that I had remembered something they said. They seemed to be impressed with the fact that I actually listened to their conversation. Now I know it seems like this is something small and it should be a given in life... but the jokes on you my guy! You'd be surprised on how many motherfuckers don't listen... believe me I was one of them.
I can't stress enough HOW many times I had people in my life bark at me because I don't fucking listen. They could literally sit there and explain something I did wrong or whatever it is and I'd still be lost and have no clue what they are talking about. But hey, thats life and eventually after people (and by people I mostly mean females in my life) yell at me you so damn much I start to listen. There are also times when people will come to you to vent and your silence/ear could be more of an impact than actual words. I know a lot of times "selective listening" seems like the better thing to do but there are some perks of this whole listening thing. One of the perks is REALLY getting to know someone. This comes in handy in your relationships and just dealing with people in general. The more you try to get to know someone and understand who they are/ what they like, the easier it is to deal with them. It can also help impress that person you like, listening and paying attention to detail might mess around and get you a little some some. You also make people feel good and welcomed when you pay attention. Think about all the times you are having a conversation with someone and they are on their phones or just focused on something else... don't you wanna smack the fire out of them? OR WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO ENJOY SOME HALF APPS AND EVERYONE ON THEIR DAMN PHONE WHILE YOU SAYING SOME SHIT (don't mind me... that ones personal lol) Even if its just a quick conversation, engage with them and don't make people feel like they are talking to a wall. Especially with all this technology and social networks we have, make someone appreciate communicting with you.
It really is not that hard at all... the hardest part is putting your pride aside to just shut up and take in information. You would be surprised on how this will effect your life in a positive way. Trust me, try it out and I promise good things come from this.
- ant
